Children’s birthdays are about celebrating the special day they were born. Birthdays are very exciting for kids, the presents, the party, the cake, they get to be the centre of attention for the day (or more sometimes). It is something I look forward to for my children and my children talk about for months before hand. I like to make their day special and exciting.
Most children have the luxury of having their own birthday. However, most twins, do not have that birthday individuality that singletons get. I have been trying to think about how to make twins birthdays individual.
Here are some suggestions for promoting twin birthday individuality
- Maybe celebrate each twins birthday on separate days, so they get their own individual attention.
- Make a birthday cake for each child
- Sing happy birthday twice – once for each child
- Ensure presents are individual
- Take photos of each child separately (seems obvious, but it can easily get forgotten, I know, I do it myself)
- Help – see if family, grandparents etc could help for the day, so you get to spend individual time with each twin
It may not seem much, but to children, it could mean a lot, make them feel individually special.
Birthday parties can be tricky though, you don’t really want to have two parties and twins often share the same friends anyway. I don’t think it is a big issue to have a joint party, as you will often find children and their friends having joint ones anyway. However, I am aware, this may change as they get older.
When I asked one of my twins this morning who she wanted to invite to her party, she said her sister and brother! To me that speaks volumes! They want each other to be there to celebrate together. I felt quite moved when she told me that. I love the bond twins have, I just hope it continues.
All children’s birthdays are special, twins and singletons, the most important thing is to have fun and enjoy the day.