Last weekend saw something very different for my twins. For the first time, my girls were not invited to a birthday party together, only one.
At first, I must admit, I was a bit surprised. I was expecting this issue, as it is only natural, they are two individual children, not a package deal, but I wasn’t really expecting it yet, more when they start school. They are only three, they go to nursery together and from what I can tell, they share the same friends.
Boo was very excited, she was going to her friend’s birthday party. However, when Pinky finally realised, she was not invited, we did have a few tears. It was very difficult explaining to a three-year old, she’s not invited to one of her friends party’s, that her twin sister is going to. I know this issue will come up again though.
My friend offered to have Pinky and BB whilst I took Boo to the party. They were very excited about that, so we didn’t have any more tears. We made cakes for them to take for a picnic and they had a great time.
It was very interesting, seeing how my twins were, apart from each other. They are so rarely separated. Boo went to the party and got stuck straight in playing with her friends, which was so great to see. I am really pleased, she got to experience this. I believe it is healthy for them to be separated sometimes.
My only issue I then had, was ‘the party bag’! As my children are all of a very similar age (only 2 yrs between all 3 of them), they basically share everything, especially my twins. It is just impossible for them not to. This has not been a problem, until now. Boo came home with ‘her’ party bag, so for the first time, she had something of her own, she didn’t want the others always taking everything. My children are usually very good with sharing, as they have never known anything else, but this ownership of the bag, definitely brought up its own issues and fights.
This birthday party issue was actually a good thing to experience. My twins got to spend time apart, they got to play with friends on their own and it was lovely for me to watch how Boo interacted without her twin sister there. It was great to see, this was not a problem. And the ownership of belongings, well, I guess I will just have to work on that one.